The Silent “Success Killer” and How to Get Rid of It!
So, you finally know exactly what you want to create. You see it, you feel it, you know it’s what you are meant to create because it sparkles like a supernova.
You declare it out loud:
That’s it! I am creating real love in my life…
OK…if I don’t create my dream business now, I’ll never do it!
No more excuses…today’s the day I put paint to canvas, I put bow to strings, pen to paper. From this day forward I express from the depths of my my soul!
You put together plan, gather materials, even start to cover ground in the right direction and then suddenly – out of nowhere – something gets in the way: sabotage, body breakdown, life distractions. You find yourself side-tracked from creating what you said you would. Before you know it, your creative vision fades into the background. Again.
All the usual stories come up:
Well maybe it’s not the right time…
I guess it’s just not meant to be:(
What was I thinking? Might as well give up like everyone says I should.
I call BS. And here’s why…
As we head into the home stretch of the year it’s important to expose a silent “success killer” that thwarts our dreams and desires. Understanding what’s really causing this sabotage and “sidetracking” is HUGE!
What’s really thwarting you is something I call your Shadow Desire.
See… there are two kinds of desires:
1. Soul Desires
This is what you truly want to create from the depths of your soul, the things you say you want to manifest.
2. Shadow Desires
This is all that you want to avoid, all that you are resistant to – the things you don’t want to see, hear or feel.
These Shadow Desires are fed by our ego and our fear.
If your Shadow Desires are in conflict with your Soul Desires they will create blocks that keep you from manifesting what you want…especially when your Shadow Desire is bigger and stronger than your Soul Desire.
Say your Soul Desire is to make an extra 5K a month by building a passion-based business. But your Shadow Desire is that you don’t want to experience failure or judgement. If your resistance to failure and judgement is stronger than your inspiration to make extra income – guess what?
You will continuously experience self-sabotage and distraction in the building of your business.
So here’s the most important part of this: in order to realize our dreams we MUST reduce the strength of our Shadow Desire so that it causes less “creative drag!”
Deep down underneath every Shadow Desire is a FEELING we want to avoid. Failure and judgment come with a feeling that we often decide is too uncomfortable or painful to bear.
We must decide something new.
What if we decide that the FEELING that comes with failure and judgement is safe for us to experience? That it is just a temporary physiological phenomenon that has no meaning other than the meaning we choose to give it?
What if we invite the feelings of judgement and failure so we can practice being safe within them? The more we practice experiencing them… the more tolerant we become of them and the less we desire to avoid them. And presto… the Shadow Desire diminishes.
That’s when we start to see flow towards creating our desires.
So whatever it is you are most afraid to feel – start feeling it on purpose: rejection, fear, humiliation, shame etc. and it will stop silently killing your success!
Unleashing your Soul Desires,
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