Where Are You Unconsciously Sabotaging Your Life ?

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What is that ONE area of your life where things just don’t click?

Is it in your love life?

Your finances? Your job?

What about your body or your creative endeavors?

Most of us seem to have at least one “sore spot” area… some of us have more!

It’s the area where we feel “not good enough” or like a failure.

It’s the area we are unconsciously SABOTAGING.

It can feel like it’s happening TO you but, in truth, the area that is falling apart in our lives is simply where our hidden inner blocks are being revealed.

The question is…how do we stop sabotaging ourselves when it’s all happening invisibly?

How do we finally have a loving intimate romantic relationship, a career we jump out of bed for, a body we love, an overflowing bank account and a rich creative and spiritual life?

We need to expose the hidden blocks so we can see and address them!

So what are hidden blocks anyways?

Hidden blocks are habits or ways of being (thinking, feeling, acting) that we learn unconsciously through our life experiences, largely in childhood, by what’s modeled around us or by default through some trauma or struggle.

Our mind neurologically programs these habits to protect us in some way without us even realizing. Eventually, these blocks have the opposite effect than what they were intended for…they actually cause more harm than good in our lives because they are no longer necessary but play out regardless.

Here’s an example:

When I was little I was a total Goody Two Shoes. I did everything I was told, behaved and was a model student. My younger siblings, on the other hand, were not. I was praised a lot. They were chided and asked: why can’t you be more like Becky?

Every time they were compared to me, I could feel their hearts closing and shrinking away from me. So to protect me from losing their love I developed a fascinating habit of playing small in my life, avoiding attention and not shining my gifts to bright.

This hidden inner block sabotaged many early career successes in my life and it wasn’t until my 30s that I finally found tools to identify it and remove it allowing me to claim my personal success. It took a specific set of skills and guidance to do that.

I’d love to say we only have one hidden inner block but the truth is, we each have MANY and will continue to discover them as we expand into our full potential in all the various areas of our lives. I’m grateful to have the tools to identify them and disassemble them when they show up.

The first step is to identify what area your inner blocks are showing up in. And then see your problems in this area as an opportunity to learn how to remove blocks. Once you learn how to remove blocks in one area you can use the same strategies in all areas!

Which of these areas do they show up in for you:

  1. Love and Relationship
  2. Career and Purpose
  3. Money and Abundance
  4. Body and Health
  5. Creativity and Spirituality

If you want to learn how to identify and remove your hidden inner blocks you must, must, must join me and my dear friend Britta this fall for our upcoming free 21-day Life Cleanse. It’s designed to give you exactly what you need to eliminate the sabotaging forces within and around you once and for all! Get a sneak peek here!

So excited to see you there!

Bec xoxo

PS. Britta and I have had a blast creating this free resource for you over the last couple months because we know how CRITICAL this info was in creating our own freedom, joy and success! This free 21-Day Life Cleanse will show you EXACTLY where you are sabotaging and how to stop!

 

 

 

 

Top 3 Hidden Blocks That Keep You From Your Heart’s Desires

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Do you ever wonder why certain things just don’t happen for you…

You can’t seem to meet your ideal partner…

You can’t seem to break out of your financial stress…

Or you just can’t get your body as healthy, fit and strong as you know it could be?

No matter how hard you try, no matter how much action you take…SOMETHING keeps blocking you?

If this sounds familiar, read on.

What most people don’t realize is that there are active hidden blocks within us that we MUST learn to identify and dismantle or they will keep getting in the way over and over again.

Here are the top 3 hidden blocks that may be getting in YOUR way:

1. Is that really your desire?

Having desires that aren’t authentic to us is a major hidden block. Over our life span we tend to take on familial or cultural desires, without realizing they aren’t really coming from our soul, but rather a survival instinct to fit in. Perhaps we want to look a certain way because we adopted a desire from the media. Perhaps we are holding out for a certain life partner because our parents projected to us a type of mate that was “suitable” for us at a young age. Perhaps we think if we don’t earn a 6 figure income that there’s something wrong with us and we just won’t ever be happy.

Most of our adult desires stem from unmet childhood needs. One way to determine if a desire is coming from our divine innermost self is to measure our degree of NEED for it. If we are desperately attached to a desire, chances are it may be a false desire. Our true desires have an expansive feel to them as if they are already ours and easeful to create. There is anticipation and perhaps even a bit of nervousness but no inner pressing, pushing or forcing around them. We feel a fullness and faith simply with the desire in our heart, well before it comes into physical fruition. Release or redefine your desires that are not true and direct you precious efforts to those that are!

2. Fear of getting what you want.

There are 2 levels of fear, fear that we know consciously know we have and fear that we don’t know we have. Conscious fear is a block in and of itself, but at least we can see it and work with it! Unconscious fear, on the other hand, could be sabotaging your dreams without you even realizing. If there is a true desire that is continuously elusive to you, ask yourself:

What might I be afraid of happening if I actually receive this?

What could I lose if I manifest this desire?

What are the potential costs or consequences of getting what I want?

These questions will illuminate your unconscious fears that keep a thick wall between you and your soul’s desires. Face these fears and the wall will dissolve!

3. Lies, lies, lies.

Your belief system could be infested with lies about your worth, your abilities to manage or your safety and security. Most of us end up with a collection of limiting beliefs in one or more of these areas. Until we tease out the stories that we have agreed to as true (which are not) these stories will continue to determine how we experience our reality. For instance if, say you just can’t meet a partner that is a good match for you ask:

Do I truly believe I am worthy of a loving and devoted partner?

Do I believe I can manage intimacy in a thriving, mature and harmonious relationship? 

Do I truly believe I will be safe and secure in my ideal relationship?

If any of these made you squirm, even a little, you will want to look at the limiting beliefs you have and learn to rewire you brain accordingly so you feel 100% worthy, capable, safe and secure getting what you desire!

Because you deserve your heart’s desires,

Bec xoxo

PS. Stay tuned for an exciting, collaborative project I am putting together for you coming out in September!! It’s a NEW powerful, free resource designed to help you break through your hidden blocks for good!!

 

 

 

This Secret Will DRASTICALLY Improve Your Love Life

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If your love life is thriving right now, you can skip this post…

Unless you have conflict in any other relationships, (like with your family or friends…)

Then you will definitely want to know about this secret too.

 

What I am about to share with you is one of the most profound truths about love and relationship that I’ve come across in a while.

It comes from one of my favorite authors, Red Hawk, in his book Self-Remembering.

 

Red Hawk talks about our mind’s habit of thinking unnecessarily and the HUGE cost of that.

 

Consider this for a moment, how much of your day is spent in unnecessary thinking?

I don’t know about you but I catch myself thinking unnecessarily ALL DAY LONG. At the gym, in the shower, making a smoothie, driving my car – SURE, I am doing some NECESSARY thinking here too, but if I’m going to be honest there’s a lot more unnecessary thinking going on.

It’s legitimate to think about what weight I will lift next, or which shampoo to use, or how many blueberries to add.

But what about all that worrying about future project deadlines, wondering about real estate trends, judging how someone drives or hoping that person liked the gift I got them. These thoughts are not useful in the present moment; they don’t help to solve a current technical problem or to communicate with another. They steal my focus and energy because they are unnecessary.

So how does this apply to love and relationships?

( I love this part!)

Red Hawk describes unnecessary thinking as:

A strategy of the mind to avoid LOVE!!

(FYI to the mind, love is terrifying because it is so vast and limitless.)

When we are lost in the incessant stream of thought in our heads we are taken away from the present moment. Catapulted into the past or future. Wrapped up in judgement, fear and apprehension.

BUT it is in the present moment that all LOVE resides – not yesterday or tomorrow. NOW and only now is where love is.

If we are THINKING all the time (past, future) how can we experience love in the form of intimacy with others? (NOW!)

So what can we do? How can we apply this truth to improve our love lives and all our other relationships too??

Glad you asked.

Keeping our attention rooted in the present is like treading water. If we stop working at it, we start sinking. Our attention automatically bounces back into past/future, ergo we disconnect from the experience of life as love.

We need to practice so we can build strong PRESENCE muscles. And the best way to do that is to have a daily mediation practice for a minimum of 10 minutes, simply observing your bodily sensations vs. the thoughts in your head. Those 10 minutes is like going to the LOVE-GYM. We train our attention so it gets good at staying in the NOW. That way you will actually be able to stay “in the moment” long enough and often enough to give and receive love with others.

In the present you have UNLIMITED access to love because that’s also where we connect to divine love, love eternal.

I urge you to verify this for yourself. Start a Presence Practice for 10 minutes every morning for a week. Watch how much easier it is for you to actually BE WITH (experience love with) the people most dear to you. To hear them, feel them and give love to them just simply through your presence with them!

To living life as LOVE,

Bec xoxo

 

PS. Remember, unnecessary thinking is COSTING you (big time) in your love life and in all your relationships. If you really want thriving relationships this is not something to skim over. It’s normal to need help with changing your habits of being. If you want to learn more about how I can help, take a moment and apply for a free Discovery Session with me here.