Is there something you really want to create in your life right now but you keep getting side-tracked?
Do you get distracted from that novel you want to write?
Too busy and overwhelmed to start dating?
Putting off researching that business idea you have been nursing for years because of some on-going drama or chaos?
We all face procrastination and self-sabotage from time to time…it’s the ego, hard at work, “protecting” us from change and keeping us “safe” in our little box.
But there comes a time when you have to stand up for your dreams and desires.
When the price of putting things off becomes too high. You feel stuck and anxious in life. Your soul writhes and burns for you to evolve and express yourself truly, fully.
This is the time to stare your fear-based ego square in the eyes and say, “no more stalling, please step aside. I have beauty and peace to create in my life.”
It is in that moment of alignment where you must commit to creating what your soul is asking for.
And it helps to have a trick up your sleeve to drown out the whines of your ego and bypass procrastination and self-sabotage.
I am about to share with you one of the most powerful tools to keep you in the actions of creation. This tool will help you keep forward momentum and make progress towards your divine destiny. Not only will it help prevent procrastination and self-sabotage from happening but it will also support you to quickly get back on track if or when it does.
It’s called: Your Why.
Identifying and connecting with the deepest reason and ultimate outcome behind your desires is fuel for your fire.
Most of us never dig deep into the “whys” of our heart’s desires.
We sense why but don’t give that why a lot of focus or connection.
It’s when we are disconnected to our deepest reason for creating something that we allow ourselves to delay. And in delaying we create existential agony in our hearts. Yes, pain.
Here’s the invitation…
Right now, this moment, identify your deepest desire – the one that keeps getting put off.
Now ask your heart, “Why do you want to create this?”
Other variations of this question include:
“Why is this really important to you?”
“What does creating this make possible?”
“What is the cost of not creating this?”
THEN… Ask this question again with respect to your answer, and again until you get to the root of your desire!
“I desire to create a loving, grown-up, mutually nourishing partnership.”
Why? “Because it allows me to co-create a family and children.”
Why is this important? “Because I will have a consistent arena to express and experience the depths of intimacy and unconditional love and service to others.”
This is the root of your unique desire, this is what you are really after. It is a reflection of your core values, your soul’s food and innermost passion…that which is most important for you to create and experience while you are on the planet.
It’s not the guy and the kids…it’s your soul’s thirst for intimacy.
So the next time you are too busy or caught up in drama to do what it takes to prepare for a relationship or make yourself available for connection you can remind yourself:
“What I am really putting off here is my soul’s deepest desire to explore the profound experience of intimacy and unconditional love.”
It can be useful to find an image that represents intimacy and unconditional love and place it where you can easily see it daily.
This will bolster your motivation to step out of your ego’s little box a bit more each day and take the action necessary.
If the root of your desire isn’t compelling for you it may mean your desire was never authentic to begin with – perhaps it’s your parents’ desire for you or something you thought you should want because everyone else seems to want it. In this case – you are allowed to completely release this desire and redirect your focus and energy towards something that truly and deeply stirs your soul!
PS. There is a great chapter in my book Inspired Income about “Your Why” especially focussed on the deepest reasons to make more money and create income streams. If you haven’t checked it out yet you can find it here.