Interested in a natural and effective solution to eliminating stress, anxiety or depression?
What if the very same solution could top up your bank account, land you a date, make you younger and twice as productive in a day?
Something with so many benefits is worth exploring, don’t you think?
Especially if it’s free of charge, easy to access and doesn’t take heaps of time!
Too good to be true? There’s only one way to find out and that’s to try it for yourself.
This miracle solution I’m referring to is not something you eat or drink. It’s not someone or some place but it’s something you do. Something, in fact, that you were BORN to do!
It’s the act of PRESENCE.
In other words, it’s the ability to hold your attention and awareness on the here and now.
We are all born with the ability to be fully present. If you ever hang out with a baby you will see how undeniably “in the moment” babies are.
But as we grow up and our mind develops, we learn some destructive habits in what we do with our attention and where we focus our minds. We inadvertently learn from family, friends, school and the media to habitually focus our attention on thoughts of the future or the past.
We lose our natural ability to remain focused on the present moment. It’s like a muscle that stops being used and the cost is high!
Our habit of fascination with past and future sustains a stress response in the brain that dumps a corresponding chemical cocktail into our bodies with many detrimental effects: mood aberrations like anxiety and depression, immune suppression, cellular aging, exhaustion and overwhelm and the triggering of coping strategies and addictions.
Dusting off our “presence muscle” and strengthening it daily has some astonishing benefits! Here are 7 amazing outcomes of leveraging presence in your life:
1. Prevent unnecessary fear and anxiety
2. Diminish depression naturally
3. Cultivate connection to self, boost intuition and improve effective decision-making
4. Reduce aging and illness
5. Improve relationship quality and intimacy as well as self-confidence and self-worth
6. Boost energy levels, willpower, focus, creativity and productivity
7. Save money by preventing over-consumption and engaging in addictive behavior
So how do you start to flex your “presence muscle?”
Meditation is a great and simple first step.
There are many different forms of mediation but I recommend a simple Breathing Meditation.
Hold your attention on the sensations of breathing for as long as possible. If your attention is stolen by thoughts in the mind of future or past, begin again with straightening your spine and taking a breath. If it feels challenging that means you are probably doing it right!
I guarantee that committing to a short meditation practice every day will drastically shift your life for the better. But don’t take my word for it, test it out yourself, you have nothing to lose! Commit to 30 days and watch what happens.
PS. Do you know someone who’s really struggling in their life to get things going their way? This post could really help them, so feel free to pass it along. Even more life-changing would be if you shared my free Misery Detox Audio program (which, if you have not taken yourself is a MUST) so please pass it on!
Ready to shed the winter blues and boost your mood in time for spring?
It’s proven that handling your own happiness will significantly improve your relationships, make and save you more money, help you lose weight and optimize you health …and much, MUCH more!
So why not stop waiting for someone or something else to bring you happiness and take it into your own hands?
There are simple things you can do everyday to increase your feelings of happiness and well-being. And like everything else, the art and science of happiness keeps evolving with new trends year after year!
Here are the top 5 trends in emotional wellness for this year that are sure to give your brain chemistry a happiness makeover:
Coming together in community is an age old happiness strategy that we have fallen away from over the last few decades with the technological advances like the internet and smart phones. Communal tables in restaurants, communal housing with central gathering spaces and a shared economy are growing in popularity! Where can you connect more? where are you isolating and avoiding human connection? Reach out, open up and lean on a community of others to replenish your primal sense of well-being.
Hygge (hue-gah), the Danish traditional art of well-being, is a trending feel-good philosophy this year. Based on ideas like less is more, quality over quantity, inclusion and cozy spaces, it encourages a simple life and working less. Honoring Hygge as a way of life leaves you with less stress, pressure and isolation. It guides you through creating nourishing space both inside and out so you can enjoy and savor the little things in life. What can you let go of in your life… stuff you don’t need? Outdated ambitions or expectations? Focus on the pleasure and joy you receive from the simple, ordinary things in your life for sustainable contentment.
Sustaining “happiness brain chemistry” takes a bit of effort every day. Having a regular daily ritual or practice that helps you stay calm, embodied, positive and clear in your mind is golden. It’s not about spending hours at a time on inner management but rather about daily consistency – like taking one vitamin per day vs. a whole bottle of vitamins at once hoping it will even you out for the week! What are you doing to inject your brain with happiness hormones each day? Are you meditating, exercising, journaling, listening to inspiring podcasts? Make mind/heart management a part of your non-negotiable daily routine for huge gains in your mood.
The act of giving, whether is giving your time, your attention, your spare change or support releases a slough of happiness chemicals in the brain. Not only does it feel good to give, but the act of giving opens a void in your energetic matrix for you to receive. When we give, we create space to allow things we want and need to flow towards us, further amping up our good feelings. Where are you withholding? What could you give more of and to whom or what? Activate the spirit of generosity, both to others and yourself, to access deep levels of well-being.
In our workaholic, “keep up with the Jones’s” culture we overdo ourselves and work hard to get what we think is necessary for success. The irony is that having fun and feeling joyful and happy is actually a more effective route to true holistic success! Most people put play and fun at the bottom of their to-do list, treating it like a luxury, when it is a critical aspect of our human basic needs. The brain associates play with survival and learning. Play has tremendous benefits to our health and well-being, our personal success and our relationships. Everyone has a different way to play… what’s play to you? Is it going to a movie is it a morning kayak, is it playing board games with the kids, a nice book and a bubble bath or a trip to somewhere exploring a new culture and environment? Start playing and watch how easy success can be!
Which trend will you try? Stay tuned for an announcement in the next couple week where I will be sharing an unforgettable opportunity to adventure into some of these trends with me!!
Ever wonder what it takes to experience unconditional love in your life?
To you, it might look like finding your ideal life partner.
Or maybe it means healing a broken relationship with a spouse.
It might even look like more closeness, openness and intimacy with a child or parent.
If you are missing this kind of deep and powerful love in any area of your life, I have some good news for you. There’s a powerful magnet available to you that you already have! And when you learn to use this magnet properly it will activate the flow of unconditional love into all the relationships in your life.
It will attract a soul mate, it will cure relationship conflict and it will profoundly deepen your existing connections!
The magnet I am talking about is: Self-Love.
Self-Love is critical when it comes to relationship health across the board. In fact, your level of Self’-Love sets the bar with how much love you are able to receive and perceive coming to you from the world around you.
I learned this the hard way in my marriage over a decade ago. My levels of Self-Love were in the negatives! In fact, I was extremely critical and self-loathing with myself. Judging and putting pressure on myself were bad mental habits I had learned growing up and they took a huge toll on my ability to experience deep and profound love.
No matter how much my husband loved me, no matter how much he did to show me his love (and he did a lot!)… I was incapable to receiving and perceiving his love for me. See, my “love set point” was determined by how much love I was extending to myself.
You may have heard about this phenomenon before and thought it sounds like a good idea, but many people don’t really know how to activate Self-Love and stay consistent with it! Even people who think they are self-loving often have blind spots where they are not! There is a whole suite of practical steps to Self-Love that I am passionate about teaching and sharing and to get you started today, right now, with increasing your own “love set point,” here is a simple exercise to use…it’s called a Self-Love Practice.
- One a sheet on paper create 2 columns.
- Name the first column, “How I am not loving myself.” In this column spend 5 minutes listing all the ways you are harming yourself physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. Examples include, staying up way too late, spending time with a toxic person, eating junk food, negative self-talk etc. This may be eye opening for you to see just how many ways you are not loving to yourself because most of these things are habitual and we don’t even notice them!
- Name the second column, “How I could be loving myself!” Next to each item you discover that you are not loving, come up with an alternative and write it in the second column. For instance, if you stay up to late, what would be a loving bed time you could aim for as a new habit? How can you minimize your time with a toxic person. What could you eat or say to yourself instead that nourishes you?
Now post this sheet somewhere visible and circle the first item you will commit to shifting. Commit to activating awareness around that item for a whole week. That means when you notice you are engaging in something self-harming, stop and shift it in the moment. It may even just start with observing yourself doing it for the first few times and acknowledging that you are not self-loving in that moment.
As you begin to shift one item at a time you will begin to notice and influx of love coming to you from the world around you. Your relationships will improve, you’ll attract loving new people and your levels of confidence, clarity, intuition, productivity and inspiration for life will super-size and positively impact EVERY area of your life.
But don’t take my work for it! Verify it for yourself by starting today! I’d love to hear your personal experience here after you take this Self-Love Practice for a spin!
Much (Self-) Love,